An Article By Author Jessica R Bunevacz
Today we are pleased to spotlight a new book that might change your future. Written by Jessica R Bunevacz, Date Like A Girl, Marry Like a Woman, is an entertaining look about the do’s and don’t’s in relationships.
The author is currently on a virtual book tour hosted by iRead Book Tours. The tour runs from June 13th through June 24th, 2016, and will feature reviews, interviews, and articles from Jessica at a variety of sites. Do take a look at her complete schedule here at her Author page at iRead Book Tours. Stop in to learn more about the author and her book.
As part of our tour spotlight, Ms. Bunevacz graciously wrote an article that we are sure you will find of interest. And here it is…
I Wrote a Book for Women, Why Not One for Men?
by Jessica R Bunevacz
Through the years, most of my relationship counseling has been with women, although I often talk with both husbands and wives. After I wrote Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman’s Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex, I found myself referring to passages in the book that applied to circumstances that we were discussing. Issues that were front and center had been covered in my book and I was able to point to examples of how to apply my “Rules” in relationships.
Sometimes the husband would ask, “Why don’t we have a book like this for men so we know what to do?” Other guys would say, “I don’t know what women want. We should have a book that will tell us what to do or how to treat our wives.” Often wives or even single women would tell me, “Someone should write something for men— how men should treat women, what husbands should do for their wives.” Most of the women I talked to said that they would definitely buy this book for their husbands or boyfriends. In fact, many of the men said they would read this book as well!
When I did my research, I found that many of the books available for men encouraged them to play games or be manipulative. I was looking for a book that would teach a man how to relate to women in a straightforward manner, with complete honesty. I decided the best thing to do would be to write this book myself. I had done it for women, why not for men? My next book will discuss rules to follow from dating through marriage—how to relate to women, how to treat women, how to find a good woman and keep her, and especially, how to make her happy forever. I hope that a couple could use both my books together and look at love, romance, and sex from both perspectives—male and female. Perhaps they could avoid spending hundreds of dollars on therapy just by reading these books together.
Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman
Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman’s Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex will help you navigate how to have a good time with “Mr. Right Now” and how to hold onto “Mr. Right” once you find him. Providing a mix easy to follow rules, and anecdotes showcasing how they worked (and in some cases what happened when they were ignored), Jessica Bunevacz is the best friend you’ll wish you had all along and the one whose advice you’ll go back to again and again.
Unlike “The Rules”, its successors, or similar books offering guidance on how to snag a man, this book isn’t about playing hard to get, instead it’s about playing to win. And the only way that you can truly to that is when you acknowledge yourself as the MVP. This is why one of the first rules in Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman’s Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex is about shedding your insecurities, and why other rules offer insight on looking, feeling, and being your best, with an emphasis on having your own life. Additionally, while other guides stop when you get to a marriage proposal, this is the book you’ll come back to after you say “I do”. Understanding that happily ever after may be a good way to end a movie, but isn’t a good way to start a marriage there are real tips about everything from friendship to sex to finances with both humor and heart.
Ultimately Date Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman’s Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex is a work that is meant to transcend beyond the pages as it’s lessons are applied in daily life. It never asks a woman to shy away from her impulses or to hide who she is or what she wants, and instead celebrates her independence and sensuality while showing her ways that she can make her romantic life more fulfilling.
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What do you get when you mix a strict Catholic upbringing, a strong curiosity for the opposite sex, and the need to grow up quickly? If you’re lucky you get an outcome like Jessica Bunevacz, the vivacious and outspoken first time author behindDate Like a Girl, Marry Like a Woman: The Polished Woman’s Guide to Love, Romance, and Sex.
Born Jessica Rodriguez in the Philippines and raised by her grandparents after the separation of her mother and father, Bunevacz was thrust into the role of provider after the murder of her mother when she was fifteen. With four siblings relying on her she began work early, first as a live mannequin and later as a model, actress, talent manager and television host. The jobs not only helped her to support her siblings, but also her first two children. One of her proudest moments while working in entertainment was as the force behind a project called “Miss Ugly No More” where women were showed how they could feel and look their best. Juggling family and work Bunevacz was not content to simply sit on the sidelines while life passed her by, and dating became her favorite contact sport.
Traveling frequently for work and fascinated by men it wasn’t long before she developed a set of rules to snag them, and guidelines for how she could remain at her best without being bested by the games others were playing. It wasn’t long before she became a self-proclaimed MANnizer, capable of capturing and holding the attention of whoever interested her, while also continuing to do what was in her best interest as both a mother and entrepreneur with both family and a business to protect.
A romantic at heart however she soon stopped her pursuit of “Mr. Right Now” when she met the man who was “Mr. Right”, the man who became her husband. Newly married, she found herself rethinking everything she knew and realized that the same qualities that made a woman an amazing girlfriend didn’t necessarily work for a wife. Rather than wait for someone else to write a marriage manual, she retooled her dating rules for herself to apply for a life after marriage. Jessica Bunevacz is now a happily married wife and mother of three currently residing in California.
While her life has been unconventional she has no regrets, and lives with the understanding that we all have the same basic desire: to feel loved, whether it’s just for one night or for an entire lifetime. Using her own life experiences as a basis she develop real-world relationship advice to help women feel more confident and comfortable whether they’re dating or have already said “I do”.
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