What’s your definition of happiness?
It’s a tricky question, isn’t it? Is it freedom from care? Does money bring happiness? Does love? How can we make ourselves happy?
A well-known British psychologist, Dr. Anthony Clare, was asked this very question and his responses are interesting. Do you agree with what he says? His suggestions are:
Cultivate a passion
He says that if everyone has something they really enjoy doing, something the are passionate about,then that contributes greatly to their happiness. Make the most of your passion and enjoy it. Indulge in your passion whenever you can.
Be a leaf on a tree
By this he means that it’s important to be yourself; to be original and unique. But just like a leaf,it’s also important to be part of a community.
Being introspective, says Dr. Clare, is counter-productive to the previous point. He says that some people are so introspective – and presumably therefore self-absorbed – that it’s impossible to get near enough to befriend them.
Don’t resist change
He says that change is important and that people who are afraid of change are rarely happy. He explains that he doesn’t mean that we should move house every month, or deliberately seek out challenging changes but embrace changes that keep our lives stimulated.
Live in the moment
For this, all the doctor says is ‘live now’.
What do you think?
- Count your blessings
- Appreciate the smallest pleasures in life
- Don’t stress over things you can’t change
- Avoid things that make you unhappy
- Drink wine 🙂
As Dr Clare says,no-one is happy all the time (it’s tricky to be one hundred percent happy when you have toothache for example) but that the essence of happiness is to have a conscious appreciation of the rightness of being’.